What is healthy sex?

Healthy sex is consensual sex between adults and yields pleasure and personal growth.

Healthy sex, intimate sex, erotic sex, and sex as a spiritual act develop from honest conversations about difficult topics that grow and strengthen a relationship.

Meditation for Arousal

When our sexual arousal owns us, indeed we become “mind-blind.” Thinking that the object of our arousal is the answer to our loneliness, pain, and fears, we’re blindly led by our sexual organs to people and places we’d not otherwise consider when operating from our “mind-sight,” meaning our ability to “see” from a place of clarity. Intrusive sexual thoughts are often the result of a triggered state of hyperarousal — the lower brain’s fight/flight/freeze response to stress.

What casual thought patterns precede any sexual arousal you experience throughout the day? We tend to think of arousal as solely the domain of the genitals, missing the magic of full-body and sensory arousal. What a joy to leave the collapsed state of compulsively seeking relief through sex and celebrate the full-body, heart-centered arousal that comes from genuine joy states!

Today, make the word “arousal” synonymous with “happiness.” Arouse your senses by taking a deep breath of morning air, seeing the beauty and abundance that surrounds you, tasting the sweet and savory on your tongue as you eat your first meal of the day, and feeling the skin of your lover’s hand or lips as they wish you a “good morning.”

Meditation for your heart

Every person possesses the quality of open-heartedness. The real test is to stretch into open-heartedness whenever you feel like isolating and shutting down. It’s so easy to close a heart, especially against a partner, if not all humankind at times. Withholding love is called “cold,” open-heartedness is called “warm,” and it’s possible that there is actual vital energy being shared.

Open your heart to yourself. Show yourself love even when you fall short or fail to be open, because certainly your shame, disappointment, regret, and expectation are not going to open that heart.

There’s a saying that anger is like picking up a burning ember to throw at someone: You get burned in the process. It’s the same with closed-heartedness. You might close your heart to protect yourself from intimidating or hostile forces, and yet closing your heart is one of the most detrimental things you can do. Closing your heart as a form of protection is a contradiction. The only protection in any challenging situation is to open your heart, to keep life alive and vital energy flowing inside you.

From: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/alexandra-katehakis-mft/meditation-sex_b_1885307.html
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